Mom Jeans

We all know what mom jeans look like. They are the high-waisted, baggier and not necessarily flattering jeans. Another common "mom look" is the messy bun, baggy shirt and leggings. These style trends are definitely comfort and utility, not necessarily fashionable. I've got plenty of mom style clothing in my closet but does this have to be all that I'm limited to wearing? Am I no longer allowed to wear anything form fitting, dressy or stylish?

Definitely not! Sometimes I feel guilty for dressing up. I feel like I'm being judged, as a mother, based on my appearance. I feel if I dress up, do my hair and put on make up that others will think I spend too much time on myself and not on my kiddo. We have all had days where we don't have time and have yesterday's make up on, a baseball cap and sweats. I've had mornings where I was halfway done curling my hair and my son woke up early so...guess I'm going to do a quick up-do style instead today. We also have days where we have extra time and energy to wake up and make ourselves look extra good. Or we have days where we really need the confidence booster or self indulgence and we want to put extra time into ourselves. Either way we shouldn't be judged as mothers based on what we look like.

Speaking of which, I feel like when you become a mother that society instantly ages your style choices. One day your in your late twenties wearing short shorts and crop tops and then you have a baby and poof it's bermuda shorts and t shirts. Now I've always been a fairly conservatively dressed person by choice. I've never walked around with crop tops or had my ass hanging out of my shorts. However, I've still felt sometimes like my clothing styles are too "edgy" for motherhood. I've felt like I'm not allowed to wear shorter shorts or a summer dress that comes to right above my knees.

To give you an example of this. I recently went in to a popular younger people's clothing store with my son and the stroller. I still suck at navigating the stroller and I was running in to all the displays, but I digress. I was offered no welcome greeting or help by any of the workers. It was also harder to get a fitting room and they looked annoyed when I said I needed one large enough for the stroller to fit in. I didn't want to take my son out of the stroller and have to keep him from crawling under the stalls and making uninvited visitations to others guests in the dressing room. A couple of days later I went back to that same store one evening after my son had gone to bed and my husband was home. I was immediately greeted at the entrance and asked by another associate if I needed any help and was given several suggestions.

Again, we shouldn't be judged as mothers based on our fashion choices. What we wear and how we look doesn't define who we are as mothers. So moms feel free to bust out your shorter shorts,shirts with silly inappropriate sayings, nice dresses or dye your hair a crazy color. You do you and dress to impress yourself because you have enough to worry about without being worried about what others think of your fashion choices.